Today is May 1, May Day as it is called. Over the world, there will be many celebrations, but this particular event hasn't caught on the in the US, like Valentines Day or Mothers Day, which will occur on May 10. I don't know why. Maybe it's because we associate "May Day" with "Mayday!!" the universal call for help.
I recently watched the original version of "The Poseidon Adventure." In the opening frames, the ship hits the wall of water from an earthquake, and Leslie Nielsen, playing the Captain, gets on the radio and starts shouting,"Mayday! Mayday!" The bells rang, sirens blared, and the passengers panicked. Did someone hear the distress call? Or was it just luck that led the rescue team came to the outside of the hull of the ship just as the few survivors had arrived at the same location on the inside? Even though it was filmed many years ago, it is a real cliffhanger.
Mayday!! Mayday!! How many times do people want to call that out when in real distress, but for some reason, are silent? Even though disaster is imminent, they say nothing, tell no one. Their fear or embarrassment or pride keeps them from asking for and receiving help in time of trouble. It could be someone suffering from the fear or reality of abuse. In some cases, the fear of walking away and the uncertainty of the future is somehow worse than enduring a painful present. Someone afraid of disappointment or rejection. Or a business owner too embarrassed to admit they need help to survive. Some people with great ideas or abilities are silenced because of the fear of failure or rejection. So many people lead lives of unfulfilled greatness because they are "Scared Silent." The fear is real to them, and in some cases, to them alone. Somewhere they learned that to ask for help is weakness, or to be avoided at all costs.
In this economy, there are many people who may be part of this group of the "Scared Silent." They sit in their houses, or go through the motions of a job they don't like but are afraid to leave. Don't rock the boat, for fear of setting someone off, be it a boyfriend, spouse, boss, or client. They have the next great business idea, best seller or hidden talent, but keep it hidden, far from the view of critics, real or imagined.
Speak up! Get out of the house! Take a chance. Get back into the game. Have a "Plan B." Talk to someone you trust who will be willing to help you find a place of refuge when things get rough, or can give you advice to turn your business around. Take one tip from all the books you have sitting around about dieting, or marketing, or self-improvement, or finances, or success and DO IT! Make a plan. Start now. When you shout "Mayday" out in your head, answer it with your own positive action. You may find that help is closer than you think.
Friday, May 1, 2009
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
New Look for MJNH Consulting
Someone said that the only thing that never changes is that things will change. Read the newspaper, watch the news on TV, log on to your Internet provider and the first thing you will see is a list of news stories...things are always changing. Some changes are better than others, and one that I am excited about is our new website. MJN Consulting, founded in 1992, has emerged 17 years later as MJNH Consulting. After 10 years consulting as MJN Consulting, many changes took place -- I've added six years experience as a Human Resources Director, part of that time working in a union environment, achieving SPHR certification from SHRM and HRCI. I've experienced one job ending and the revitalization of a rewarding and energizing business, reconnecting with past clients and gaining new ones. I've found that love really does have a second chance with my new husband, Walter, and discovered the joy and wonder of living in the most beautiful city in the USA, Savannah, GA.
The latest change is our new website. Check us out at www.mjnhconsulting.com. New look, new experiences, new services, continued commitment to quality and customer satisfaction.
Over the past year, conducting seminars across the country, I've talked with hundreds of people working in many different industries, from different age groups and in various jobs at different levels of their companies. The faces change with every seminar, but the challenges are basically the same -- difficult employees and co-workers; managers who are inconsistent, micro-managers, and non-supportive; too much work and not enough appreciation. Lack of resources, training, money, and opportunities for advancement. One new challenge is the gap between the generations in work habits, company loyalty and techno-savvy. Uncertainty in the future with our current economic climate weighs heavily, but there are also a lot of companies and employees that are thriving. Lots of challenges, but opportunities as well.
Whatever your challenge, MJNH Consulting can help find solutions. With a wide variety of experience in management and organizational development, customized training, quality systems, process redesign, customer service, recruiting and retention, teambulding, motivational speaking, career transition/resume writing, or technical writing (policies, procedures, handbooks) MJNH Consulting will partner with your team to bring about positive change that helps your business grow. Call us. We can help.
The latest change is our new website. Check us out at www.mjnhconsulting.com. New look, new experiences, new services, continued commitment to quality and customer satisfaction.
Over the past year, conducting seminars across the country, I've talked with hundreds of people working in many different industries, from different age groups and in various jobs at different levels of their companies. The faces change with every seminar, but the challenges are basically the same -- difficult employees and co-workers; managers who are inconsistent, micro-managers, and non-supportive; too much work and not enough appreciation. Lack of resources, training, money, and opportunities for advancement. One new challenge is the gap between the generations in work habits, company loyalty and techno-savvy. Uncertainty in the future with our current economic climate weighs heavily, but there are also a lot of companies and employees that are thriving. Lots of challenges, but opportunities as well.
Whatever your challenge, MJNH Consulting can help find solutions. With a wide variety of experience in management and organizational development, customized training, quality systems, process redesign, customer service, recruiting and retention, teambulding, motivational speaking, career transition/resume writing, or technical writing (policies, procedures, handbooks) MJNH Consulting will partner with your team to bring about positive change that helps your business grow. Call us. We can help.
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Rethinking Work
It's interesting to read the papers and watch the news during our current economic crisis. We have cut a record number of jobs, yet the executives are still working and getting bonuses and raises. Hey, aren't these the guys (and women) that are responsible for the management of these business, making the financial and strategic decisions that got them in such a mess in the first place? So why is the solution to lay off or fire the people who are actually serving the customers, making the products, implementing the processes, procedures, and policies? I think it's time to rethink how work and companies are structured. Here is my solution (or at least idea) of how to turn things around.
I have spent the past 25 years working with all kinds of companies, consulting, training, speaking and writing on workplace issues, process improvement, quality and customer service. I have spoken to (and listened to) thousands of employees from all levels of the organization -- from the person on the assembly line and customer service help desk to the CEO and GM of the company. Hourly staff, for the most part, have the closest contact with the customers and can make or break the customer experience that causes a consumer to buy and continue to buy from a provider.
The housekeeper in a hotel has a lot more influence on my decision to stay at a hotel AGAIN than the GM does. Because I come in contact in a very intimate way with the result of their work. If the room isn't clean, the bed made correctly, and the light bulbs don't work, I may or not complain. If the hotel operator or front desk agent doesn't answer the phone at least by the third ring and are not pleasant and helpful when they do answer, I may not complain. If the breakfast eggs look green instead of yellow, and the eating area isn't clean, I may not complain. But I can also choose not to come back. These are the areas that I see and use, which are not directly the result of the managers, but of the hourly staff. They are also the ones that are paid the least, do physically and mentally challenging jobs, and are regarded as the least valued employees. They work closest to the customer, but have the least to say in the decision making process on how best to serve the customers and make them happy. They are occasionally included in a brainstorming session on process improvement, or encouraged to offer suggestions on how to make improvements, but often those suggestions are shot down or ignored. After awhile, they stop believing in all those "motivational" programs that are supposed to make people happier at work. What they really want is respect...for my work, my ideas, and my contribution. What would happen if all the housekeepers and maintenance staff didn't show up for work one day in a major downtown hotel? Chaos!!! What would happen if the managers didn't show up for one day? The rest of the staff would probably get more done without a lot of meetings, interruptions, micro-managing, and e-mails to respond to. It would be interesting to try it out and see.
TQM turned the pyramid upside down and made the customer the top, with management supporting the process at the bottom. I suggest we put the employees who work directly with customers and have the most influence day-to-day at the top of the pyramid, pay them more...on a par with their value to the company, value and respect their work and contribution, and utilize their ideas and suggestions for process improvement. Making beds may not have the glitz and status of middle management, but every person who stays in a hotel is going to eventually slip between the sheets and directly experience the expertise and talent of the housekeeper. That experience has more to do with the bottom line than a supervisor or manager sitting in a boring meeting.
Hire the best for the most important jobs in your company, and "important" doesn't necessarily mean the highest title. Ask your customers what matters most to them, and it will probably be having work done correctly, the phone being answered on time, the food hot and cooked properly and the premises clean and orderly. I would bet it won't be having a lot of managers hanging around.
I have spent the past 25 years working with all kinds of companies, consulting, training, speaking and writing on workplace issues, process improvement, quality and customer service. I have spoken to (and listened to) thousands of employees from all levels of the organization -- from the person on the assembly line and customer service help desk to the CEO and GM of the company. Hourly staff, for the most part, have the closest contact with the customers and can make or break the customer experience that causes a consumer to buy and continue to buy from a provider.
The housekeeper in a hotel has a lot more influence on my decision to stay at a hotel AGAIN than the GM does. Because I come in contact in a very intimate way with the result of their work. If the room isn't clean, the bed made correctly, and the light bulbs don't work, I may or not complain. If the hotel operator or front desk agent doesn't answer the phone at least by the third ring and are not pleasant and helpful when they do answer, I may not complain. If the breakfast eggs look green instead of yellow, and the eating area isn't clean, I may not complain. But I can also choose not to come back. These are the areas that I see and use, which are not directly the result of the managers, but of the hourly staff. They are also the ones that are paid the least, do physically and mentally challenging jobs, and are regarded as the least valued employees. They work closest to the customer, but have the least to say in the decision making process on how best to serve the customers and make them happy. They are occasionally included in a brainstorming session on process improvement, or encouraged to offer suggestions on how to make improvements, but often those suggestions are shot down or ignored. After awhile, they stop believing in all those "motivational" programs that are supposed to make people happier at work. What they really want is respect...for my work, my ideas, and my contribution. What would happen if all the housekeepers and maintenance staff didn't show up for work one day in a major downtown hotel? Chaos!!! What would happen if the managers didn't show up for one day? The rest of the staff would probably get more done without a lot of meetings, interruptions, micro-managing, and e-mails to respond to. It would be interesting to try it out and see.
TQM turned the pyramid upside down and made the customer the top, with management supporting the process at the bottom. I suggest we put the employees who work directly with customers and have the most influence day-to-day at the top of the pyramid, pay them more...on a par with their value to the company, value and respect their work and contribution, and utilize their ideas and suggestions for process improvement. Making beds may not have the glitz and status of middle management, but every person who stays in a hotel is going to eventually slip between the sheets and directly experience the expertise and talent of the housekeeper. That experience has more to do with the bottom line than a supervisor or manager sitting in a boring meeting.
Hire the best for the most important jobs in your company, and "important" doesn't necessarily mean the highest title. Ask your customers what matters most to them, and it will probably be having work done correctly, the phone being answered on time, the food hot and cooked properly and the premises clean and orderly. I would bet it won't be having a lot of managers hanging around.
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
What's "IN" and What's "OUT" List
I used to live in the Washington DC area, and every year I would look forward to the "IN" and "OUT" list that would appear in the Style Section of The Washington Post (TWP). Here it was, for those not savvy or self-assured enough to know instinctively, what was going to be THE thing to wear, eat, think, do, and avoid in the New Year to achieve maximum personal and professional success. Out went the old books, food, clothes, phrases, electronics, etc., and it was a frenzied trip to the mall to stock up and be "IN" as quickly as possible. How great it felt to have a visitor to your home glance at the coffee table and comment, "Oh, you're reading the latest book from Blah, Blah." You could then nod your head and smile smugly to yourself, knowing you haven't even leafed through the table of contents. The "List" had done its job, positioned you, like that crisp unread book on the coffee table, as one of the "IN" crowd. At least among those who also read the list. Or who cared about the list.
This year's List is interesting. I was surprised to hear that "drinking like Mad Men (the TV show) is now IN. I was a young secretary during that era, and I witnessed first hand what that was like. Vodka gimlets for lunch. The cut crystal liquor carafes in the office, which made it easy (and even acceptable) to have a drink during a meeting or casual discussion in the bosses office. I wonder how long it will take MADD to remind TWP about the statistics on alcoholism, drinking and driving and the AMA about liver disease.
I'm a little surprised at "vampire rights" as IN. I haven't heard many news reports on vampires protesting or marching to relieve unjust oppression. I am glad that boyfriend jeans are now IN, since they are way more comfortable than those designer, pencil thin, show your muffin top and more jeans that I see (not bigger than a size 2). I wonder when "Mom" jeans will come back in vogue? 20011?
I'm sorry to see that Fuji apples are now OUT, replaced by Honeycrisp. I really like Fuji, and though I risk being labled an old fuddy-duddy, I will continue to buy them and eat them. So there, TWP. They are just too good to pass up.
Finally the list found out what all us mothers in the 60's new...pots and pans in the bottom cabinets or drawers in the kitchen were THE best toys for toddlers. Organic toys are OUT, you young mothers. The problem is, a lot of moms don't cook, since the kids diet consists of frozen chicken fingers, microwaved macaroni and cheese, or something out of a box or bag, handed to them from a drive-thru window. I wonder if this listing will trigger a buying run on Calphalon (has to be designer for the young X and Yers). I can just see them texting Williams Sonoma to send the deluxe set NOW --- Tiffany or Dylan, the little darlings, are getting cranky!
The list goes on and on. I'm not going Goth, nor will I begin to wear white piping. To be honest, I don't even know what half the stuff was on the OUT list, or what the stuff was to replace it with on the IN list. Who cares. How much is driven by marketing, advertisers, and the desire to motivate people to spend, spend, spend. The desire to be IN -- in the know, "in with the IN crowd," in step, in front of the crowd. These basic desires lie behind the success of these lists. They also serve those of us who want to stand out, be different. It can be viewed as a list to avoid for 2009. Find what fits for you without the list for the Herd. Stand out. Be different. Be yourself. That's my mantra for 2009.
So much for that. I just noticed that it's already seven days into the new year. I have to get to the mall! Have a great day!
This year's List is interesting. I was surprised to hear that "drinking like Mad Men (the TV show) is now IN. I was a young secretary during that era, and I witnessed first hand what that was like. Vodka gimlets for lunch. The cut crystal liquor carafes in the office, which made it easy (and even acceptable) to have a drink during a meeting or casual discussion in the bosses office. I wonder how long it will take MADD to remind TWP about the statistics on alcoholism, drinking and driving and the AMA about liver disease.
I'm a little surprised at "vampire rights" as IN. I haven't heard many news reports on vampires protesting or marching to relieve unjust oppression. I am glad that boyfriend jeans are now IN, since they are way more comfortable than those designer, pencil thin, show your muffin top and more jeans that I see (not bigger than a size 2). I wonder when "Mom" jeans will come back in vogue? 20011?
I'm sorry to see that Fuji apples are now OUT, replaced by Honeycrisp. I really like Fuji, and though I risk being labled an old fuddy-duddy, I will continue to buy them and eat them. So there, TWP. They are just too good to pass up.
Finally the list found out what all us mothers in the 60's new...pots and pans in the bottom cabinets or drawers in the kitchen were THE best toys for toddlers. Organic toys are OUT, you young mothers. The problem is, a lot of moms don't cook, since the kids diet consists of frozen chicken fingers, microwaved macaroni and cheese, or something out of a box or bag, handed to them from a drive-thru window. I wonder if this listing will trigger a buying run on Calphalon (has to be designer for the young X and Yers). I can just see them texting Williams Sonoma to send the deluxe set NOW --- Tiffany or Dylan, the little darlings, are getting cranky!
The list goes on and on. I'm not going Goth, nor will I begin to wear white piping. To be honest, I don't even know what half the stuff was on the OUT list, or what the stuff was to replace it with on the IN list. Who cares. How much is driven by marketing, advertisers, and the desire to motivate people to spend, spend, spend. The desire to be IN -- in the know, "in with the IN crowd," in step, in front of the crowd. These basic desires lie behind the success of these lists. They also serve those of us who want to stand out, be different. It can be viewed as a list to avoid for 2009. Find what fits for you without the list for the Herd. Stand out. Be different. Be yourself. That's my mantra for 2009.
So much for that. I just noticed that it's already seven days into the new year. I have to get to the mall! Have a great day!
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Looking ahead to 2009
Here it is, the 30th of December. Time to reflect on 2008, almost "the past" and look forward to 2009. A new year, fresh start, new book with clean pages, clean slate...all those cliches that we buy into that give us hope that this next year, things will be different, better different.
On December 31, I pull out the envelope where I put last year's the New Year's Resolutions, open them up, and see how I did. Hmmmm. As I read the list, I am at times disappointed, amused, bewildered, angry, and resigned. Sometimes, one has actually been achieved. I'm a much better resolver than completer. That doesn't deter me from repeating the exercise for the next year. Undeterred, and always optomistic, I begin again. One year, after not making progress on a single item, I merely crossed out the year at the top of the page and put in the next year.
I always make New Years Resolutions. December 31, I take out the yellow legal pad (great expectations) and begin. #1 is always a repeat (except for 1997), "lose 20 lbs.) Then follows a litany of great expectations, such as "write book, remember everyone's birthday with card or call, make $1 million, be on 'Oprah" with new book, etc.)
One thing about making resolutions, is that making them isn't the thing. They say writing things down make them more likely to be achieved, like goals. I have found that writing them is helpful, but actually DOING them is what makes the difference. I learned the same thing over many years of buying the latest diet books when they hit the market. Buying the books isn't the key. Knowing what to do and why it works (or doesn't) to take off the pounds isn't enough. Actually cutting those calories, getting off your butt and walking or working out is what makes the numbers on the scale decrease. Knowing all the "secrets" and "surefire tips" to losing weight isn't enough. You do much better by putting knowledge to action. 1997 was proof of that...actually lost those 20 lbs!
This year, I'm going to add something to my resolutions. A start date, and a completion date. I'm going to take my own advice (that I give to my audiences in training and speaking) and use action words, set timelines and deadlines. Quantify results. Set milestones. This time the resolutions are not going to go in a sealed envelope, but hang on the wall over my PC in the office for all to see. They will even go in this blog. And not make so many. Too many resolutions are discouraging, since many are not achieved. With a shorter list, more likelihood that the percentage of success will be greater.
Hope springs eternal. There is always a new beginning. Why do we wait until New Year's Day to do it? Every day, every moment can be a new beginning from the previous one. Tomorrow when I make the short list for 2009, one of the resolutions will be to begin again every day. Falling short one day doesn't mean failure, just an opportunity to pick up again the next day.
What will you resolve this year? More money, better education, lose some weight, connect with family and friends? Write it down, share it with someone, and don't be discouraged. You've got a year to get it together and make some progress. They say if you don't have a plan, you will be at the mercy of someone who does. Make your own plan and work it in 2009. And remember to have some fun while you're doing it.
Happy New Year!
On December 31, I pull out the envelope where I put last year's the New Year's Resolutions, open them up, and see how I did. Hmmmm. As I read the list, I am at times disappointed, amused, bewildered, angry, and resigned. Sometimes, one has actually been achieved. I'm a much better resolver than completer. That doesn't deter me from repeating the exercise for the next year. Undeterred, and always optomistic, I begin again. One year, after not making progress on a single item, I merely crossed out the year at the top of the page and put in the next year.
I always make New Years Resolutions. December 31, I take out the yellow legal pad (great expectations) and begin. #1 is always a repeat (except for 1997), "lose 20 lbs.) Then follows a litany of great expectations, such as "write book, remember everyone's birthday with card or call, make $1 million, be on 'Oprah" with new book, etc.)
One thing about making resolutions, is that making them isn't the thing. They say writing things down make them more likely to be achieved, like goals. I have found that writing them is helpful, but actually DOING them is what makes the difference. I learned the same thing over many years of buying the latest diet books when they hit the market. Buying the books isn't the key. Knowing what to do and why it works (or doesn't) to take off the pounds isn't enough. Actually cutting those calories, getting off your butt and walking or working out is what makes the numbers on the scale decrease. Knowing all the "secrets" and "surefire tips" to losing weight isn't enough. You do much better by putting knowledge to action. 1997 was proof of that...actually lost those 20 lbs!
This year, I'm going to add something to my resolutions. A start date, and a completion date. I'm going to take my own advice (that I give to my audiences in training and speaking) and use action words, set timelines and deadlines. Quantify results. Set milestones. This time the resolutions are not going to go in a sealed envelope, but hang on the wall over my PC in the office for all to see. They will even go in this blog. And not make so many. Too many resolutions are discouraging, since many are not achieved. With a shorter list, more likelihood that the percentage of success will be greater.
Hope springs eternal. There is always a new beginning. Why do we wait until New Year's Day to do it? Every day, every moment can be a new beginning from the previous one. Tomorrow when I make the short list for 2009, one of the resolutions will be to begin again every day. Falling short one day doesn't mean failure, just an opportunity to pick up again the next day.
What will you resolve this year? More money, better education, lose some weight, connect with family and friends? Write it down, share it with someone, and don't be discouraged. You've got a year to get it together and make some progress. They say if you don't have a plan, you will be at the mercy of someone who does. Make your own plan and work it in 2009. And remember to have some fun while you're doing it.
Happy New Year!
Friday, December 19, 2008
"Ho, Ho, Ho" or "Ho Hum" ?
i just returned from my last training engagement for the month. I am now sitting in the midst of christmas cards that haven't been written, gifts that now have to be sent by FedEx ($$$$!!!), the pajamas patterns for the children and grandchildren cut but not yet sewed (7 of them) and a lovely Christmas tree aglow with lights, but with nary an ornament. The nutrolls haven't even gotten to the ingredient-buying stage. No stockings hung on the chimney with care (where are they, anyway??).
Someone asked me yesterday if I was ready for Christmas. I wasn't ready for Thanksgiving, but it came anyway. That's the way I feel about Christmas, too. It will come whether I'm "ready" or not. Thanks to my husband, the lighted wreaths with their beautiful red bows are already in place, hanging outside the upstairs bay windows on our old historic house in Savannah. What is "ready"??? How ready do you have to be, and who decides?
My son is coming tomorrow for a quick visit with two of my grandchildren. Next weekend, we will have the little girls, my husband's two children, and the following week, my two children and four grandchildren will descend on us for two days of welcomed chaos. Am I ready for that??? Absolutely. I can't wait.
Sometimes we let the preparation and some arbitrary standard of "readiness" measure our excitement or enjoyment of an event. The house has to be pristine, the decorations up to Southern Living Magazine standard, the food worthy of recognition by the Food Network. We lose the "Ho, Ho, Ho" merriment and enjoyment of the moment by exhausting ourselves with preparation, wanting that approval or adulation of what WE did instead of focusing on the mere joy of being together for a time in a special season.
This year, my decorations may be "Ho Hum", but when we open the door to family and friends, my heart will be singing "Ho, Ho, Ho." Don't miss the magic amid all the crazienss. Determine your own standards. Clear the clutter off the dining room table, dust off the good china, and really look at and talk to your family and guests. Give a few extra hugs, tell someone how much you love them and what they mean to you. Don't stress over the chocolate stains on the couch or the candy cane stuck to the curtains. That's what Resolve carpet and upholstery cleaners are for. Happy Holidays!
Someone asked me yesterday if I was ready for Christmas. I wasn't ready for Thanksgiving, but it came anyway. That's the way I feel about Christmas, too. It will come whether I'm "ready" or not. Thanks to my husband, the lighted wreaths with their beautiful red bows are already in place, hanging outside the upstairs bay windows on our old historic house in Savannah. What is "ready"??? How ready do you have to be, and who decides?
My son is coming tomorrow for a quick visit with two of my grandchildren. Next weekend, we will have the little girls, my husband's two children, and the following week, my two children and four grandchildren will descend on us for two days of welcomed chaos. Am I ready for that??? Absolutely. I can't wait.
Sometimes we let the preparation and some arbitrary standard of "readiness" measure our excitement or enjoyment of an event. The house has to be pristine, the decorations up to Southern Living Magazine standard, the food worthy of recognition by the Food Network. We lose the "Ho, Ho, Ho" merriment and enjoyment of the moment by exhausting ourselves with preparation, wanting that approval or adulation of what WE did instead of focusing on the mere joy of being together for a time in a special season.
This year, my decorations may be "Ho Hum", but when we open the door to family and friends, my heart will be singing "Ho, Ho, Ho." Don't miss the magic amid all the crazienss. Determine your own standards. Clear the clutter off the dining room table, dust off the good china, and really look at and talk to your family and guests. Give a few extra hugs, tell someone how much you love them and what they mean to you. Don't stress over the chocolate stains on the couch or the candy cane stuck to the curtains. That's what Resolve carpet and upholstery cleaners are for. Happy Holidays!
Friday, December 12, 2008
Homeward Bound
It's one of those comfy Fridays...small wisps of clouds in the sky, a hint of warmth in the breeze for the middle of December. The house is quiet, except for the gentle sounds of one of the original albums of Simon and Garfunkle, taking me back to random days, times, sites, and people of a time long lost and often forgotten. Now it's "Bridge Over Troubled Water." I can see Art Garfunkle again (saw S&G in person in the 60's in concert at Valparaiso University) his curly hair almost standing up, thin, lanky silhouette on the stage, soft jacket, scarf carelessly wound around his neck. It is almost prayerful, the song. He closes his eyes, and the lyrics come, soft, liquid, caramel, soothing, yet aching, wrenching.
Music does things to me. Quiets, stirs, evokes. All those afternoons and evenings working in my Dad's music store (K Music, Glen Park, Gary Indiana)endlessly listening to the latest hits, country and western, classical, whatever was new or what the customer was interested in. I learned how to sing harmony by listening to all that music. In my teens, when I was lonely, or just wanted to escape the boredom of everyday or avoid my homework, I would put on a stack of LP's on the record player in the living room at home, and lay prone on the floor, ear up against the speakers on the front so I was enveloped, surrounded, caressed by the music. I could hear at once each individual part and all of them together. There was such beauty, power, emotion in those sounds, meeting, parting, soaring, and then coming together again.
Music has always been a part of my life. My children and I listened to lots of music together. Children's songs, christian songs (in our religious phase), nursery rhymes. I used to sing to them when they were babies, and was renowned for always having a song for everything. Give me a word, and I'd give you a song. We all loved music, and each had his or her own taste. My daughter with her "skater" phase. My son, the bass player for the high school garage band, "Midnight Raid", and husband/father, with some of the craziest songs, played over and over on those long trips to Hilton Head.
A nice, cozy, Friday, full of soft lights, music, and memories. Have a great weekend.
Music does things to me. Quiets, stirs, evokes. All those afternoons and evenings working in my Dad's music store (K Music, Glen Park, Gary Indiana)endlessly listening to the latest hits, country and western, classical, whatever was new or what the customer was interested in. I learned how to sing harmony by listening to all that music. In my teens, when I was lonely, or just wanted to escape the boredom of everyday or avoid my homework, I would put on a stack of LP's on the record player in the living room at home, and lay prone on the floor, ear up against the speakers on the front so I was enveloped, surrounded, caressed by the music. I could hear at once each individual part and all of them together. There was such beauty, power, emotion in those sounds, meeting, parting, soaring, and then coming together again.
Music has always been a part of my life. My children and I listened to lots of music together. Children's songs, christian songs (in our religious phase), nursery rhymes. I used to sing to them when they were babies, and was renowned for always having a song for everything. Give me a word, and I'd give you a song. We all loved music, and each had his or her own taste. My daughter with her "skater" phase. My son, the bass player for the high school garage band, "Midnight Raid", and husband/father, with some of the craziest songs, played over and over on those long trips to Hilton Head.
A nice, cozy, Friday, full of soft lights, music, and memories. Have a great weekend.
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